So many parents of twins or other multiples face a low sex drive after twins or multiples are born. Unfortunately, it can become almost the norm – it is probably rarer to find parents of newborn twins engaging in regular nookie!

If you are experiencing a low sex drive after twins, then I have some good news for you. It is very unlikely to be caused by anything serious, and with almost all couples who go through this, it will pass.

Just knowing that it is normal can make it a little easier to face

It can be incredibly frustrating for couples of newborns to try and get some adult time happening.

After a woman gives birth, it’s generally recommended that she not have intercourse for around six weeks to give her body time to heal. Many women, even if their lady-parts are feeling ok, will still appreciate the six weeks off from sex because they are pretty exhausted and can be overwhelmed right now.

But most of us would like to get back some intimacy with our partners at some stage, right? Many mothers of twins and multiples can still be reluctant to have sex after 6 months, a year, and even longer after their babies were born.

Some women have no desire, but still feel very much attracted to their partner, and want to ‘want it’.

For many couples, regular intimacy is a way of connecting beyond communication, that reminds you that you are still one being, one team. So, even though this mother wishes she had back her old libido and could connect with her partner on that level again, physically her body is not coming to the party.

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Should you use infant car capsules for twins or triplets or go straight into car seats? It’s always a hot topic of debate in the multiple birth community.  There are definitely people who are pro capsules and then there are just as many people who think capsules are not necessary. While there is always an option to hire capsules, not all families live in an area where baby equipment hire is available, and will choose to place their multiples directly into car seats.

Please note:  This article is not saying NOT to use capsules, it is simply listing some of the reasons that other multiple birth families gave Twinfo regarding their reasons not to use capsules.

Here are seven reasons why you may decide not to use capsules for twins, triplets or more.

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Author: Shannon Fitzgerald

I’ll be the first to admit, toilet training twins does not excite me, not one bit.

The only thing I like about toilet training is that I won’t have to pay for nappies anymore. As far as the how and the why go, I didn’t really do any research about toilet training.

I just knew it had to be a stress-free toilet training process. Although to be honest, I was hoping daycare would sort it out for me.

Toilet training does seem to be a high traffic topic on the mummy blogs. You’ll find constant questions like how do I train my 18 months to go to the toilet, how to toilet train boys, the guide to toilet training in a day, the secrets to the 3-day toilet training program etc.

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I couldn’t wait to be a mother.  Even though I didn’t realise it was an actual term, I was really looking forward to attachment parenting.   It just seemed the natural thing to do.  To be honest, I didn’t realise there was really any other way to parent.

We had a fairly rough start to parenthood. When couples start thinking about having a baby, infertility never comes to mind. Unfortunately for us, it was a subject that we soon knew a lot more about than we had ever expected.

Thankfully, after 8 soul destroying rounds of IVF, and one twin miscarriage along the way, we finally able to announce to the world (OK…….Facebook!) that we were having a baby! I couldn’t wait to have a water birth, delay cord clamping and respond to  the beautiful newborn cry. Plus co-sleep, baby wear and breastfeed my single baby.

Pregnant with twins

Oh, hang on….its twins??? Really???? OK, our bedroom will only fit a queen bed, how we will all fit in there? I have three bulging discs so I won’t be able to tandem carry them, and what do I do if they are both crying??? How will I possibly breastfeed two babies at once?? Everyone is telling me I won’t be able to have a natural birth or breastfeed???

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Guest post for Families Magazine

Author:  Twinfo

It’s Christmas.  Again.  I am not sure why I am so surprised, seeming as it happens on the same day every year.  It just seems to come around faster every year!

Don’t get me wrong, I love Christmas.  Not many of our family live in the same city as us, so we usually travel to them.  I don’t mind, as it means that we can just sit and relax, and not try to do the endless jobs around the house that the extended time of work would usually lend itself to.  Plus there are often relatives who are happy to entertain your multiples, giving you an opportunity for a break for an hour or two.

Children make Christmas so much more fun.  And having twins, triplets, quads or more makes Christmas multiply more fun!  Christmas is a great time to relax and spend some time with your multiples.

Twinfo have put together some tips to help you survive the festive season with your multiples.

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A – Advice. Once pregnant, you become a target of every woman who has given birth. Remember that all these bits of information come with good intentions. You may be surprised at what you’ll learn.

B – Babies.  Once you have more than one at a time, everyone wants to see them.  Try not to get irritated with them.  Instead, be proud and enjoy it, as once they start getting older people don’t notice it as much.

C – Crying.  Get used to it!!!  In stereo!!!!

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Biting is a stage that all toddlers seem to go through.  Biting is certainly not just a problem if you have multiples, all toddlers seem to do it at some stage.  It just seems doubly (or triply!) bad when you have several toddlers of the same age who bite each other.  I don’t know if it was just me, but I was always relieved that my twins tended to only bite each other, rather than other children.  Infact, as far as I know, my twins only ever bit another child three times between them (unfortunately it was the same child each time!).  However, they did bite each other occasionally.

Do you have a biter? If so, Twinfo has put together some strategies to help you.

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Author:  Naomi Burgess

I didn’t start baby wearing my oldest until she was a few months old. So when I fell pregnant the second time I was looking forward to being able to wear a newborn. I had visions of wearing my little baby while dropping my oldest off at preschool and avoiding the hassle of getting the pram in and out of the car every time I went anywhere. Then at my 12 week scan I discovered I was having twins…

Suddenly the whole idea of baby wearing was up in the air.

Could I wear two babies at the same time? Was twin baby wearing even possible? I had so many questions but many got pushed aside as I dealt with more urgent twin related decisions and research. I quickly checked that my beloved sling I had with my oldest could handle newborn twins and left the rest to deal with later.

When my twins arrived I soon learned at sometimes you really do need 3 hands and bumbled around trying to get my twins in my sling. It worked for emergencies but wasn’t a practical option. 

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Author: Anonymous

We did BLW (Baby Lead Weaning) with our twins. BLW means not worrying about spending ages making different purées and just letting your babies feed themselves. Seriously – who with twins has time to make combinations of pureed sweet potato and peas????

All went really well………………until……………I inadvertently introduced a “high risk allergen” food, without even knowing it! The humble kiwi fruit.

Anaphylaxis in twins in triplets is obviously not a multiple birth specific thing. Anyone can suffer from Anaphylaxis.

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