Adult multiples Archives

March 28, 2022

Outnumbered – Twin Poem

Author: Monica Harber

A poem I wrote about what it is like to have twins.

It’s called ‘Outnumbered’ and it’s about just that, being outnumbered.

Outnumbered

There’s more of them than there is of me.
How can I explain so that you can see?
You never experience the transition from one to two.
Instead, it goes straight from me to a few.
It’s reciting their birth order to remember their name.
Having to choose who first to tend to, torments you, fills you with shame.
So many products, places, outings so inaccessible.
The barriers, preparation, and multi-tasking; unimaginable.
You must sacrifice one to put the other in the car.
Checking that vehicles aren’t near but far.
Your needs don’t come second, but third or fourth.
Still, your heart when you cuddle them fills with such warmth.

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December 17, 2021

Triplets, twins and reducing the mental load with Hello Fresh

Disclaimer: This is an affiliate blog, but I seriously LOVE Hello Fresh, so that’s why I am sharing it. My only regret is not doing it earlier when we were struggling with multiple newborn babies.

Those of you who are regular Twinfo readers know how much I talk about my twins and reducing the mental load where possible. The mental load of being a multi mum is huge (or Dad, but in my case most of their care falls to me so I am writing this blog from my point of view as a mum of multiples).

Plus….did you know that looking after newborn twins take approximately 19 hours a day?

I was at the point where my mental load was causing me to stress about my mental load! Crazy hey! So I decided to do a few things about it.

Triplets, twins and reducing the mental load

Firstly, I paid upfront for a 50 pack of Pilates classes. Everyone talks about how exercise helps reduce stress levels, so I decided I would just do it. And by paying up front I knew that this would mean I would go. As I had already paid for it as I hate wasting money.

Then I looked at some of big things that put pressure on my mental load and Dave and I talked about what we could do to minimise those things.

My top one is Hello Fresh. I absolutely LOVE LOVE LOVE Hello Fresh as it has reduced my mental load considerably, and has actually made me a happier person. (Seriously!).

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September 20, 2020

Adult Twin Relationship – Interview with 46 Year Old Twins

All twin parents wonder at some stage what their “babies” adult twin relationship will be like. Twinfo has been conducting a series of “twinterviews” to find out.

Denise and Linda are 46 years old. They live at opposite ends of the country, however have an amazing bond. Denise lives in Brisbane, Queensland, and Linda lives in Mandurah, Western Australia.

They are unsure if they are identical or fraternal. We would love to know your thoughts in the comments below!

Adult Twin Relationship Twinterview

Are you identical twins or fraternal twins?

Denise: Not sure as we haven’t been tested. We are the same blood type but my sister can curl her tongue and I can’t and that is a DNA trait. If identical (from a DNA point of view) then we wouldn’t be.

Linda: Unsure.

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March 17, 2020

Anxiety due to Coronavirus

Author: Amanda Curran, Registered Psychologist

Dealing with the anxiety around COVID-19

Information is coming from every angle, and it’s confusing.

Things are changing by the day, and even by the hour.

It would be easy to panic, feel your heart race when someone sneezes or coughs around you, but is this helpful?

For the majority of people COVOD-19 will not enter your home. And if it does you will feel unwell for a week or so (or may not even know you have it) and then recover fully, able to re-enter your life fully after all symptoms have subsided. Some however will get very ill, very quickly and will need medical attention.

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June 6, 2019

Being a mum to adult identical triplet girls

Author: Lindy Fien

Well, here we are. My identical triplet girls (Shannen, Kaitlin and Courtney) are finally adults, and I am so proud. Life in our family has been a roller coaster from the day we found out we were expecting triplets.

Finding out we were pregnant with triplets

There were big changes in the year 2000. A bigger car, my boys 10 and 12 yrs had to learn to share a room and my attention. Endless bottles, nappies, clothing, bathing, feeding….it all seemed so overwhelming. So, we formed a production line, an organised routine that got our girls to adulthood with my sanity still intact. Not to say there weren’t times when I questioned my ability to parent, but I realised I’d been given this amazing task and damn it, I was going to get it right.

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July 20, 2018

Twinterview with 32 year old identical twins – Kimberly and Jemma

Adult twins Kimberly and Jemma are 32 years old. Twinfo recently interviewed them about their twin relationship.

Jemma lives on the South Coast of New South Wales, Australia while Kimberly is currently living in Vancouver, Canada.

Are you identical twins or fraternal twins?

J – Identical

K -Identical

What do you like best about being a twin?

J – She is my other half, someone I know who will always love me and be there for me no matter what.

K -That you always have someone to support you – a permanent best friend!

What is the worst thing about being a twin?

J – The comparisons! No one would ever talk about normal siblings being the ‘nicer’ one or the ‘smarter’ one! It is just plain rude, particularly when this is said directly to you both and it is very possible that we can both be equal in our ‘niceness’ or ‘smartness’ or whatever it is we are being called at the time!

K -The fear that anything bad would ever happen to her.

What differences do you have to your twin?

J – I am more anti-social I think! I like to have a small but close group of friends, while Kimberly is a social butterfly and makes friends wherever she goes! Kimberly is more of a gypsy- she has lived multiple lifestyles in our 32 years whereas I have lived one haha!! I admire her bravery in tackling new things and I love that she always has my back, even when I’m being a pain in the ass!

K -We lead very different lives at the moment, she has a family and a mortgage, and I am single and living overseas. She is lovely and kind and worries a lot more than I do. I am quite blunt and take more risks.

What are other people’s reactions when they first meet you and find out you are a twin?

J – Always pleasantly surprised and want to know more about Kimberly and our relationship. We are fiercely protective of each other.

K -They are surprised and excited! They always want to see a picture of her. Some people think it’s weird.

How often do you contact each other?

J – It has been a little bit harder as Kimberly is in Canada but we very rarely go more than a few days without talking… I have 3 small boys too which means I can’t always pick up the phone when I want to! It can range from multiple times a day to every few days…

K -At least once or twice a week now (it was nearly every day but the 17 hour time difference is hard).

How often do you see each other?

J – At the moment not much! I wish Canada was closer! But when Kimbo is in Australia perhaps at least once a month or so (we lived 2 hours from each other and I have had three babies over the past 5 years so it was harder to schedule).

K -Now it’s once every year, when I was living in Australia it was roughly once a month (we lived 2.5 hours apart).

Do you have other siblings?

J – Yes, we have an older brother. I love him so much but as Kimberly and I have shared so much of our lives in each other’s pockets, having the same friends and also being the same gender and doing the same things, I think we are closer – we shared a womb!!

K -Yes, an older brother (2 years)

What career path have you taken?

J – I work in the tourism industry and digital marketing, while Kimberly has worked in the media – and is currently working in the finance industry. Even though they sound quite different there are definitely parts which overlap – we were both working in government roles – however Kimberly is much more driven, successful and organised than I am!

K – I am an Executive Assistant at a financial management firm currently, but my career is in the media / broadcast industry.

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July 23, 2017

Questions for adult fraternal twins! Find out their answers.

Have you ever wanted to know what it is like to live your life as a twin? Everyone is fascinated with twins, both identical and fraternal twins. There are always so many questions for adult fraternal twins

The Australian Bureau of Statistics reports that the proportion of confinements resulting in a multiple birth has remained fairly consistent for the past decade, ranging from 1.5 to 1.6% of total confinements. In 2017, there were 4,528 confinements resulting in a multiple birth and 60 of these were triplets or higher order births. There were 50 less multiple births in 2017 than in 2016.

Recently we interviewed Jacqui, a fraternal twin with her sister Clare, living on the East Coast of Australia, to find out what it is really like to live as a twin. Here are the questions for adult fraternal twins that we asked.

Interview questions for adult fraternal twins

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