All those Facebook memes about motherhood and parenting are very funny, mostly because they are completely true. But we’ve noticed a bit of a regular pattern when it comes to the familiar ‘mothers and wine’ memes; they are getting more and more common. Are all these memes just harmless fun, or should we be a bit more concerned about this increase in mums who drink?
Adult twins Kimberly and Jemma are 32 years old. Twinfo recently interviewed them about their twin relationship.
Jemma lives on the South Coast of New South Wales, Australia while Kimberly is currently living in Vancouver, Canada.
Are you identical twins or fraternal twins?
J – Identical
What do you like best about being a twin?
J – She is my other half, someone I know who will always love me and be there for me no matter what.
K -That you always have someone to support you – a permanent best friend!
What is the worst thing about being a twin?
J – The comparisons! No one would ever talk about normal siblings being the ‘nicer’ one or the ‘smarter’ one! It is just plain rude, particularly when this is said directly to you both and it is very possible that we can both be equal in our ‘niceness’ or ‘smartness’ or whatever it is we are being called at the time!
K -The fear that anything bad would ever happen to her.
What differences do you have to your twin?
J – I am more anti-social I think! I like to have a small but close group of friends, while Kimberly is a social butterfly and makes friends wherever she goes! Kimberly is more of a gypsy- she has lived multiple lifestyles in our 32 years whereas I have lived one haha!! I admire her bravery in tackling new things and I love that she always has my back, even when I’m being a pain in the ass!
K -We lead very different lives at the moment, she has a family and a mortgage, and I am single and living overseas. She is lovely and kind and worries a lot more than I do. I am quite blunt and take more risks.
What are other people’s reactions when they first meet you and find out you are a twin?
J – Always pleasantly surprised and want to know more about Kimberly and our relationship. We are fiercely protective of each other.
K -They are surprised and excited! They always want to see a picture of her. Some people think it’s weird.
How often do you contact each other?
J – It has been a little bit harder as Kimberly is in Canada but we very rarely go more than a few days without talking… I have 3 small boys too which means I can’t always pick up the phone when I want to! It can range from multiple times a day to every few days…
K -At least once or twice a week now (it was nearly every day but the 17 hour time difference is hard).
How often do you see each other?
J – At the moment not much! I wish Canada was closer! But when Kimbo is in Australia perhaps at least once a month or so (we lived 2 hours from each other and I have had three babies over the past 5 years so it was harder to schedule).
K -Now it’s once every year, when I was living in Australia it was roughly once a month (we lived 2.5 hours apart).
Do you have other siblings?
J – Yes, we have an older brother. I love him so much but as Kimberly and I have shared so much of our lives in each other’s pockets, having the same friends and also being the same gender and doing the same things, I think we are closer – we shared a womb!!
K -Yes, an older brother (2 years)
What career path have you taken?
J – I work in the tourism industry and digital marketing, while Kimberly has worked in the media – and is currently working in the finance industry. Even though they sound quite different there are definitely parts which overlap – we were both working in government roles – however Kimberly is much more driven, successful and organised than I am!
K – I am an Executive Assistant at a financial management firm currently, but my career is in the media / broadcast industry.
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Author: Dr Bronwyn Griffin
How tired parents can avoid burns in children
It’s 5:30 am, you have woken up for the 9th time to your babies. You know that your day needs to kick start now. Your older two children need to get ready for kindy and school. You push the “boil” button on the kettle to obtain the much needed first caffeine infused drink of the day. You change the babies nappies, make drink, seat yourself on cosy corner of couch and set up for the feed. Whilst taking your first sip of that glorious caffeinated solution your 8 month old twin suddenly lunges for your coffee whilst breastfeeding. Your coffee goes all over you and worse still, all over the baby. Chaos commences!
So many parents of twins or other multiples face a low sex drive after twins or multiples are born. Unfortunately, it can become almost the norm – it is probably rarer to find parents of newborn twins engaging in regular nookie!
If you are experiencing a low sex drive after twins, then I have some good news for you. It is very unlikely to be caused by anything serious, and with almost all couples who go through this, it will pass.
Just knowing that it is normal can make it a little easier to face
It can be incredibly frustrating for couples of newborns to try and get some adult time happening.
After a woman gives birth, it’s generally recommended that she not have intercourse for around six weeks to give her body time to heal. Many women, even if their lady-parts are feeling ok, will still appreciate the six weeks off from sex because they are pretty exhausted and can be overwhelmed right now.
But most of us would like to get back some intimacy with our partners at some stage, right? Many mothers of twins and multiples can still be reluctant to have sex after 6 months, a year, and even longer after their babies were born.
Some women have no desire, but still feel very much attracted to their partner, and want to ‘want it’.
For many couples, regular intimacy is a way of connecting beyond communication, that reminds you that you are still one being, one team. So, even though this mother wishes she had back her old libido and could connect with her partner on that level again, physically her body is not coming to the party.
Have you ever wanted to know what it is like to live your life as a twin? Everyone is fascinated with twins, both identical and fraternal twins. There are always so many questions for adult fraternal twins
The Australian Bureau of Statistics reports that the proportion of confinements resulting in a multiple birth has remained fairly consistent for the past decade, ranging from 1.5 to 1.6% of total confinements. In 2017, there were 4,528 confinements resulting in a multiple birth and 60 of these were triplets or higher order births. There were 50 less multiple births in 2017 than in 2016.
Recently we interviewed Jacqui, a fraternal twin with her sister Clare, living on the East Coast of Australia, to find out what it is really like to live as a twin. Here are the questions for adult fraternal twins that we asked.Continue Reading →