Author: Abbey Free
As I lay in bed, I find my mind race I’m exhausted by life being so fast pace But when it slows down, even for a day I find myself not even wanting it that way Being a mum, comes wherever you go… Even at night when times running slow You want to switch off, you want to have a break But you’re minds always going, how much more can I take But then when you wake up and your kids smile at you You know there’s nothing in the world you’d rather do Times goes by so incredibly fast & you start to realise this time doesn’t last In the blink of an eye your baby is gone And then the next stage, well it doesn’t last long You want to soak it all in, and enjoy every day But there’s lots said in society that get in your way
The questions in your head as you raise your child Are they happy enough? Are they a little too wild? Am I feeding them right? Or is that food not good? I feel like I’m not doing it quite as I should Why can’t society just let us be the mums that we are Why does everything have to be taken too far? “Oh you let them self settle, how could you let them cry?” “Oh you co sleep with them, you know they could die?” “Send them to daycare, I’m sure they’ll learn a lot” “How could you be apart? I’m glad that I’m not” “Go back to work, it’ll be so good for you” “ Sending them to school is not what a good mum would do” “Keep your babies close it’s a bad world out there” “You need to look after yourself but having a break is not fair” “Your kids need you around, they need all you’ve got” “But filling your bucket is something you cannot”
“These days will be over in the blink of an eye” “Enjoy every moment just trying to survive” And we wonder why the mums that have young kids today Are finding it hard with the constant replay Am I doing enough, am I doing it right? Those questions you think about all day and all night When in reality our babies, they really chose us, We are the ones that they love and the ones they trust So why is it so hard being a mum? Well the job on its own is as hard as it comes, So why add to the pressure and why say too much To someone who already is doing it tough… Because at the end of the day if you give your kids all the love And keep on trying to go beyond and above… How could you be doing it so damn wrong??? Or have we been listening to too much “advice” for too long?
The choices we make, we chose them with care Telling mums they’re not right, well that’s just not fair I’m raising my kids and one thing I am sure, Life is so much harder than it ever was before But I love it I do I really wholeheartedly do I’d die for my kids, every single one of you You bring me so much joy, so much pride and love “You’re upset baby? Well give mummy a hug I’ll make it all better, I’ll hold you so tight…” Surely I’m doing this mother thing right… How lucky are my children, that they have a mum I mean really, they’re as lucky as it comes… They have a family, a home and one that is fun We dance, we sing, we walk, we run… They’re healthy, they’re happy and have confidence too So you know what, I think I’m doing alright, don’t you?
In fact I’m not even just “trying my best” I’m not just getting them up and dressed… I’m doing all I can to be the best mum I can be And it shows in all my kids beautiful personalities They’re brave, they’re adventurous and a little crazy too Well look at that, I must be good at what I do?? So when you question the mum and woman you are? Remember to not let those thoughts go too far How amazing is it that your kids chose you So be confident and proud of all that you do Motherhood is hard, you lose a part of the person you are But to all of your kids, you’re this new shining star You bright up their day and they bright up yours They love you for all of your strengths and all of your flaws You’re not perfect you never will be you see.. But you really are perfectly imperfect as can be…
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